Let’s talk about romance, long lasting relationships and love. After all, research has shown that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one’s marriage or deeply committed relationship, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience.
First and foremost let’s put an old wives tale to rest. There is no such thing as a soul mate. *gasp* I know, right? Alas, it’s true. In terminology soul mate or “soulmate” or “split soul theory” is an Egyptian-Greek based origins myth. Humans originated in pairs, bound in one body with ONE original soul. However, they were “split” in two supposedly for doing something offensive to the gods. After which the newly separated humans forever wandered the earth in search of their long lost soul mate so they could reunite their incomplete souls and become one again.
I know. It’s a romantic notion for some which leads to disappointment that it isn’t true. Some people are so happy that they can’t imagine that they aren’t soul mates. That’s the beauty of it though. We can still have long lasting relationships without those notions. Furthermore, there are common traits found in a lasting relationship.
Let’s begin with top 10 signs that you are in a lasting relationship.
- You aren’t afraid to say what you think
- Trusting in each other
- You compromise
- There is common ground
- You get along more than you argue
- Each partner can admit when they are wrong
- You make an effort to show each other love
- Sharing laughter often
- You communicate with one another
- You’re keeping up your physical intimacy
A note about intimacy. Physical intimacy comes in many forms. Physical affection can keep the relationship strong. Whether it’s a sweet kiss hello or goodbye, snuggling or holding hands. Even nonsexual touching builds connections between partners.
Keep a few things in mind. Communication is key. Those able to effectively communicate are better able to understand one another and experience greater intimacy. Secondly, don’t hold grudges. There is a good amount of fighting in long term relationship. Which is actually healthy, but the key is letting go once the fight is resolved. If you can’t stay mad at them, that’s a great sign. Remember to support and encourage each other for a better relationship.